Kinks & Fetish Dictionary 📖

Explore, learn, and expand your vocabulary with our complete glossary of BDSM, kinks, and fetish terms.

A

• 24/7 – refers to a lifestyle-based dynamic in BDSM where elements of power exchange, control, or fetishistic practices are active all the time, not just during a scene or in the bedroom.
• Abasiophilia – a psychosexual attraction for impaired mobility, especially orthopaedic appliances such as leg braces, orthopedic casts, or wheelchairs.
• ABDL – is a form of Ageplay that involves roleplaying a regression to an infant like state. DL- refers to Diaper lover. Individuals can be AB (adult Baby) or DL without connecting both aspects.
• Abrasion – people who enjoy this fetish like giving or receiving cuts and scrapes.
• Acarophilia – is the pleasure derived from scratching or being scratched by a partner or oneself.
• Actirasty – arousal by the rays of the sun. This may be enjoyed through sex outside (Agoraphilia).
• Agalmatophilia – sexual attraction to a statue, mannequin or doll that resembles the human form.
• Age play – a role play in which one or both partners pretends to be a different age/stage. Types of age play may include infantilism, Parent/Child play, and diaper play.
• Agoraphilia – fetish dedicated to sex in public places.
• Aliens – kinksters may fetishize about having sex with aliens, often in an abduction and forced scenario.
• Amaurophilia – 1) Sexual preference for a blind or blindfolded sex partner. 2) Sexual preference for having sex in total darkness.
• Amazons (Strong Women) – fetish dedicated to physically strong women like Amazons, women with strong personalities, or women in positions of authority.
• Anal-Vore – is a sexual preference in which sexual arousal arises in connection with the thought of being devoured anally, devouring someone anally or observing this process.
• Androids – sexual preference for humanoid machines with AI and awareness.
• Anilingus – Also known as Rimming refers to oral stimulation of the anus.
• Aquaphilia – fetish for water and having sex in or around water.
• Auralism – a sexual fetish defined as sexual arousal or excitement caused by sound, to be compared with voyeurism. This sound might be music, a voice, the actual sounds of sex itself.

B

• Barbiefication – The process of making someone into a living sex doll or being turned into a living sex doll themselves.
• Bathroom control – usually the dominant person controls when, how and where the submissive can urinate or defecate.
• Begging – kink for begging and pleading (to have sex, for release/orgasm, to perform an act, etc.). Begging is submissive in nature.
• Blasphemy – refers to the act of insulting or showing contempt for God. Sexual arousal by doing unholy things like “Sinning” or breaking religious rules.
• Bondage – restraint of a person, either by physical item (cuffs, rope, etc.) or instruction (known as mental bondage). Restraint can be full-body (vacuum beds, suspension) or involve a single body part such as the eyes (blindfold), mouth (ball gag), wrists or even thumbs.
• Branding – marking someone with a symbol, word, etc. Typically uses a heated object (such as a metal hanger) to produce the brand.
• Breast Torture – the breast equivalent of CBT. Torture may include hitting, pinching, bondage, and other methods of inflicting pain onto breasts.
• Breathplay – choking and limiting breath.
• Brontophilia – A fondness for thunder and thunderstorms.

C

• Caning – the act of hitting someone with a rod known as caning. Fleshy areas such as the back of the thighs and butt are advised, but some people enjoy caning the bottoms of feet.
• Castration – An extreme fetish involving removal of all or part of a man’s genitals or scrotum only. Most kinksters obsess over it without actually going through with it.
• CBT – Cock and ball torture (CBT) is pain applied to a man’s genitals. It may be a form of punishment involving shoes, sounding, stretching, impact implements and other tools.
• Chastity – a fetish where someone’s access to their genitals is blocked. People with Vulva usually wear chastity belts, and People with a Penis usually wear cock cages.
• Chionophilia – used to describe a person who loves winter or cold weather. Having outdoor sex in Wintertime.
• Choking – blood choking is the act of choking someone until they pass out. It is incredibly dangerous and can lead to brain damage.
• Claustrophilia – A person becomes aroused or experiences orgasm through confinement to small spaces.
• CFNM – Clothed Female Naked Male.
• CFNF – Clothed Female Naked Female.
• CMNF – Clothed Male Naked Female.
• CMNM – Clothed Male Naked Male.
• CNC – Consensual-non-consent (often abbreviated CNC) is a form of roleplay in which partners simulate a forced experience with enthusiastic consent and clear communication.
• Collaring – Collaring someone to mark them as a belonging.
• Corsetry – the act of wearing a corset, sometimes to the extent of changing the shape and size of one’s body.
• Crossdressing – dressing like a member of the opposite sex. For many people, it’s not necessarily sexual while it is for others.
• Crushing – a particular fetish relating to crushing objects.
• Cuckolding – Cuckolding is a form of erotic humiliation that involves a submissive getting off on watching their partner have sex with someone else.
• Cunnilingus – oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris.
• Cupping – small cups or jars are applied upside down to the body, usually the back, using suction.
• Cyborgs – to feel attracted by Cyborgs.

D – E – F

• Dacryphilia – arousal caused by tears or crying.
• Degradation – when your partner talks down to you during sex.
• Dehumanizing – a kink or fetish, refers to arousal by being dehumanized (e.g., sex doll, object, animal).
• Discipline – giving or receiving punishment for perceived or defined infractions.
• Double penetration – penetration of a person´s vagina and/or ass via a combination of toys, penises or both.
• Double Vaginal/Anal Penetration – DVP involves two penises or one penis and one toy in the vagina/anus.
• Drownplay – being submerged under water to restrict breathing, a type of erotic asphyxiation.
• Edge-Play – Any kink or fetish that is considered more risky or extreme (choking, breath play, knife play, fire play).
• Electrostimulation – involves the use of electric shocks, such as through the violet wand, for erotic pleasure.
• Endytophilia – sexual preference or fetish for individuals who derive sexual arousal from partners who remain clothed during sex.
• Exhibitionism – a common fetish for being naked and performing sexually in front of others.
• Face fucking – to fuck someones face with a penis or strap-on.
• Facesitting – to sit on someones face.
• Farts – sexual arousal or pleasure from the sound or smell of farts.
• Fearplay – sexual obsession with being afraid.
• Feederism – the sexual preference of feeding someone or being fed with the goal to gain weight.
• Figging – using peeled ginger root to create a burning sensation anally or vaginally.
• Fisting – the act of penetration with a full hand.
• Flogging – hitting someone with a multi-tailed tool known as a flogger.
• Food-Play – incorporating food into sex.
• Force Feed – feeding someone or beeing fed until physical or mental pain.
• Formicophilia – arousal by insects or by insects crawling on and nibbling the body.
• Frotting – rubbing of two penises together.

G – H – I

• Gagging – deriving pleasure from the feeling or sound of a partner choking or gagging.
• Gags – a form of mouth bondage (ball gags, bit, cleave, pacifier, etc.).
• Gerontophilia – sexual preference for elderly people.
• Hematolagnia – lust for blood and bleeding (wounds, vampirism, biting).
• Humiliation – incorporating humiliation into your sexual and/or BDSM practice.
• Hygrophilia – Mess fetishists enjoy the mess created by sexual fluids.
• Hypno – erotic hypnosis used in a consensual non-consent situation.
• Impact-Play – any activity involving hitting (spanking, flogging, whipping, paddling).
• Imprisonment – being locked inside cages, cells, coffins or other areas.
• Intercrural – thrusting between someone’s thighs without penetration.
• Interrogation-Play – BDSM roleplay acting out torturer and victim parts.

J – K – L – M

• JOI – Jerk-off instruction.
• Katoptronophilia – a fetish for having sex in front of mirrors.
• Klismaphilia – Sexual arousal from enemas.
• Knife play – a type of play that includes knives as a medium for sexual arousal.
• Lactation – boobs or moobs producing milk.
• Looning – balloon fetishism.
• Macrophilia – people with this kink enjoy partners who are giant.
• Masochism – enjoyment of pain, punishment, and torture.
• Medical play – involves medical supplies and Doctor/Patient or Nurse/Patient roleplay.
• Melissophilia – the sexual fetish for bees, wasps and stinging insects.
• Microphilia – A Kink for body parts or people that are smaller than usual.
• Mummification – bound entirely or nearly entirely to prevent almost all movement.
• Mysophilia – arousal from dirt/filth, soiled underwear, feces, unwashed people, or vomit.

N – O – P – Q

• Nebulophilia – sexual attraction for fog.
• Olfactophilia – attraction to smells, especially pungent body odors.
• Omorashi – Japanese word for a fetish related to having a full bladder and urinating on oneself.
• Orgasm Control – playing with delaying, limiting, or ruining orgasms.
• Orgasm Denial – type of play where someone’s orgasm is denied entirely.
• Panicplay – also known as Phobophilia: sexual obsession with being afraid.
• Pegging – sexual arousal from being penetrated via Strapon.
• Pet-Play – acting like a domesticated pet (cats, dogs, leashes, collars).
• Play-Piercing – temporary decoration or sensation of breaking skin with needles.
• Plushophilia – fetish for stuffed animals.
• Praise Kink – pleasure from receiving praise from a partner during sex.
• Primal kink – growling, grunting, biting, hunter and prey dynamics.
• Psychrophilia – arousal by being cold or watching others be cold.
• Puppyplay – sociosexual activity taking on the mannerisms of a puppy.

R – S

• Robots – Attraction to non humanoid machines with or without AI.
• Role-Play – slipping into the role of someone or something else.
• Ruined Orgasm – interrupting the Orgasm with an unpleasant sensation before the point of no return.
• Sadism – the kink for providing physical or mental pain.
• Scat – a fetish for fecal matter (Coprophilia).
• Sensory deprivation – deliberate reduction or removal of stimuli from one or more senses.
• Shibari – artistic style of Japanese rope bondage.
• Snowballing – passing semen between partners’ mouths via French kissing.
• Somnophilia – the fetish for sexual partners who are asleep.
• Sounding – inserting thin tubes into the urethra.
• Spanking – being spanked with the flat hand as punishment or enticement.
• Spectrophilia – sexual attraction to ghosts/spirits/demons.
• Sploshing – being turned on by being soiled by things other than bodily fluids (WAM).
• Stygiophilia – arousal by thoughts of hell and eternal damnation.
• Sybian – a ride-on vibratory sex machine designed for sexual pleasure.

T – U – V – W – Z

• Teasing – trying to arouse or raise sexual desire through playful or tormenting delay.
• Teleiophilia – erotic preference for persons of mature age.
• Temperature-Play – using thermal contrast (wax, ice, hot oil) for sensual effect.
• Tentacles – fetish for tentacles and related erotica.
• Tickling – tickling as a kink for surrendering control.
• Trichophilia – hair fetishism.
• Urtication – using the nettle plant to sting a partner’s skin.
• Vomit – sexual obsession with the act or substance of vomit.
• Vore – sexual desire to be eaten alive or to eat someone.
• Voyeurism – kink for watching someone else while naked or engaged in sexual activity.
• Waterboarding – extreme edge-play simulating drowning using water and cloth.
• Zappers – toy giving static shocks of electricity.
• Zentai – wearing skintight suits while grinding against others.